Companioning

Companioning Peer support parents, Loss Doulas, or other advocates who have had losses, or who worked closely with parents who have, can be of great support to you from the earliest of moments after receiving the devastating news. Consider asking for them immediately. The staff should have a list o...

Back to Work

When to go back to work? This is a very common question to which there is no specific answer. It may be that you are not emotionally or physically able to go back for a while. Your boss or your company may offer you time off to do your grief work. Or you may feel pressure, yo...

Bring Baby Home

Bringing your baby home after death, or to die, is becoming a more common thing to do for families who want special time with their baby outside the hospital and/or funeral home time. The stories of healing and peaceful family times are many and growing. It is a comfortable setting...

Bereavement Support

Early Days If your baby has just died and you have not yet delivered, visit Help Now. There you will find presentation of the immediate needs, some of the whys (why to spend as much time with your baby, why take pictures, why involve your family fully if possible, and so much more).&nb...

Couples/Singles

Once you are home and the rituals such as funeral or memorial service is behind you, the next big issue often revolves around how a couple gets along and moves ahead. The Anguish of Loss If you are a couple, you may find you cope and grieve very differently, a common occu...

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies

by Sherokee Ilse and Tim Nelson Bereaved Parents often don't communicate their feelings and needs well, leading to confusion, assumptions, mistrust, and often tension. However, through thoughtful communication, improved understanding, and openness, relationships can be significantly improved. This ...

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by Sherokee Ilse and Tim Nelson

Bereaved Parents often don't communicate their feelings and needs well, leading to confusion, assumptions, mistrust, and often tension. However, through thoughtful communication, improved understanding, and openness, relationships can be significantly improved. This new small book offers a unique approach to a difficult but important subject. Ilse and Nelson teamed up to offer not only their individual perspectives as a woman and man following the deaths of their children, but also to share how they and their spouses met the challenges couples face. Good background information is offered on topics such as brain differences, personality and childhood influences, myths, and more. Other couples weigh in and thought provoking questions are added to the back for personal use or for book discussion, support groups, or during counseling sessions.

Primarily, this is the story of two imperfect couples (the Ilse and the Nelson’s) who have endured over 20+ years each of the ups, downs, and togetherness since their babies died.