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"With compassion and relationship-based, wise care,
we can change the world one person at a time."

Babies Remembered Consulting

Sherokee Ilse and Associates


Offering Inspiration and Practical Guidance


Tailored for Compassionate Caregivers and Parent Advocates

  • Do you need a sensitive, inspiring speaker for your conference, staff, care providers, or community?
  • Do you wish to create a new program, support group, or peer support network?
  • Looking for a Gold Standard Perinatal Loss Model program?
  • Does your program need to be evaluated/reviewed in order to take it to a higher level?
  • Do you need assessment tools and support to determine your staff competencies along with help planning educational programs to respond to the identified needs?
  • Is there a need for mediation between parents and hospitals, or other institutions?
  • Have turnover, retirement, or budget cuts left your perinatal loss program with gaps?
  • Looking to outsource some of some services that are no longer offered in your hospital or clinic (or new things you would like to offer but can't afford ongoing staff costs?
  • Just need some advice?

We can help

Between our present consultants at Babies Remembered, we have over one hundred years of experience combined, both personal and professional.  Our team members are innovators who have developed, created, and grown Programs of Excellence.  Some have changed care standards and paradigms; others have actively advocated for parents, melding their needs with possibilities into working realities. We have an extensive network of talented, experienced professionals who may be able to offer you the tools and skill sets to support your work and address your needs.

We offer: 

  • Program Evaluation, Development, and Expansion  (our copyrighted forms, guides, and protocol sheets cover most things found in a Gold Standard Hospital or Clinic program)
  • Educational Programs and Speakers
  • Mediation Services, Conflict Management with Perinatal Crisis Situations and Hospital Errors
  • Personalized, Tailored Audit and Consulting Services
  • Caregiver Support and Professional Guidance
  • Support Group Training and Consultation
  • Grief and the Workplace Consultation and Education Programs
  • Peer-to-Peer Training
  • Nonprofit Organizational Consultations

Meet our Team

Sherokee Ilse

President, Wintergreen Press and Babies Remembered
Co-founder, Loss Doulas International
International speaker, author, parent advocate, bereaved parent

Comments from professionals and parents--

“I feel like we sat and had tea all day as we talked and talked. I learned so much and felt so supported. I LOVE your style of teaching.”

“What an honor to be with Sherokee and to hear her first hand after enjoying her books and using them with bereaved parents.”

“Very informed, humorous, and easy to learn from.”
“...excellent, dynamic speaker.”

“We had Sherokee speak at our annual ‘Beyond Sorrow Seminar’...She gave a fantastic presentation and was able to connect with both healthcare workers and funeral directors. The audience responded and interacted with her in a way that we had never previously seen at prior seminars. We highly recommend her!”
Hantage Funeral Chapels, Hutchinson, Minnesota

Scottsdale Hospital, Phoenix


 Sue Steen RN, BSN, MS

Nursing instructor, Bethel University, St. Paul, MN
Perinatal Nurse Navigator, Maple Grove Hospital
Former Hospital Perinatal Loss Coordinator
Birth Planner

Sue’s nursing and teaching career spans 30 years. She is currently teaching nursing at Bethel University in the areas of maternal child health, nursing leadership and diversity in nursing. Sue has published a number of articles related to faith development in children and has done research related to parents grief experience with perinatal loss. In addition to her role as a nursing professor, she has practiced nursing in many adult and maternal child health settings. Her career includes a variety of roles; staff nurse, staff educator and most recently perinatal loss coordinator. She is presently the lead on developing a ‘Perinatal Loss Gold Standard’ program at a Minneapolis hospital.

Sue is passionate about working with families who have suffered a perinatal loss. She also uses her nursing and teaching experience to assist institutions and health care providers in giving a high standard of care to families as they go through this difficult experience.

Comments from families—
“I don’t know how we would have made it through those first very dark and confusing days without you. You led us through every step with such care and compassion and we are forever grateful.” Parents of Jacob

“Talking with you and birth planning was a very important part of the process. We could just go to the hospital and everything was planned.” Parents of Anna

" We continue to think of you often as an angel whom God sent to us to help us with the loss of Emma.” Parents of Emma

“Thank you for the comfort and kindness you provided during my pregnancy and delivery. We will never forget you-you touched our lives. Parents of Kathryn and Maggie

Comments from health care providers—
“Sue served as an amazing support, resource and educator to staff and families alike.” Rachel Beucler, RN MPH, Care Coordinator Birth Center, Abbott Northwestern Hospital
“Every family that Sue has touched has been influence in an awesome way by her gentle, caring, compassion.” Molly RN


 Lori Martini

Bereaved parent, consultant, and creator of Healing From the Start Manual for Hospital Caregivers

Lori is a passionate voice for parents, a bereaved parent herself, a trainer, and one of the founding advisers to the International Loss Doulas organization. She works directly as a peer support to families and brings her sensitivity and knowledge to share with clinics and hospitals.

Her Healing from the Start (free, downloadable) manual is used throughout the world to help remind and enlighten staff who are about to work with a newly bereaved family.

Comments from families—>
“I would have been lost without Lori.” ( Friend & Co-Worker to newly bereaved family)

“Lori is one of the few blessings that came into my life, during this terrible time; she was and still is an Angel that was sent to help me heal. ”(Bereaved Parent in subsequent pregnancy)

Comments from health care providers—
“I can’t tell you how many staff approached me in the days following the perinatal bereavement conference that Lori presented at to say how meaningful it was to hear her speak and that it would truly help them improve the care they give to bereaved parents from now on.” (OB Nurse Specialist)


Suzanne Helzer, RNC


Perinatal Loss Coordinator, Banner Desert Hospital, Phoenix

RTS Coordinator, Trainer
Childbirth Educator
Support Group Leader

Baby Loss Doula Trainer, Advisory Member 

Perinatal Loss Coordinator, Labor and Delivery Nurse, Childbirth Educator, and Support Group Leader

Suzanne has developed and co-run one of the best hospital perinatal loss programs in the US for families when they have a baby die. This model program uses the best tools, strategies, and protocol.