A Personal Message
for parents whose child has died ...
"Our hearts are broken, Our world seems like it has ended. Our dreams, our hopes and our future with this child are over. Our precious baby has died."
An excerpt from my first book, Empty Arms.
Dear new friend,
I am so sorry about the loss of your child. Whether your child was miscarried, stillborn, a newborn, a baby who died of SIDS or an older child, I hold you in my heart at this difficult time. How painful, unbelievable and unfair this is!! Children are not supposed to die before their parents and the overwhelming feelings can incapacitate you. I, too, have walked and stumbled down a similar path.
While no one can understand exactly how you feel and what you need, those of us who have had a child die at least might know some of what your journey is like. I'd like to take the pain away and make you better. But I know I cannot--that pain, those tears and all that love honor your child and how much they meant to you. Instead I share these pages of resources with you in hopes that you come to understand that many of us have lived through the nightmare of the death of our children mostly through the support and love of others. I also thank God for holding me in the palm of His hand and guiding me to this mission in life.
You are not totally alone, though you may feel that way. The human and universal feelings of love and grief and sorrow and missing them bind us together. My wish is that you will find comfort, guidance, opportunities for shared tears and yes, even laughter, as you enter into these books written by and for people who have lived such devastating losses as yours. Also check out our links page to learn about support systems and organizations who might be of help to you.
Your love for your child will always be in your heart. No matter their size or age, they knew (and know) your love. I believe it! Do you?
Be not afraid, for you are not alone.